Exchange of Vows Ceremony Ideas?

I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 years. We both have been divorced so, we are a little gun shy about the whole wedding thing. We would like to say our vows to each other in private and exchange rings.


I need advise on how to do this up in a very special way. I would like to have family there afterward for a small party. We will actually not be married in the eyes of the law. It's just a thing between him, me, and God. I need suggestions, comments, and advice. Thanks so much.

By ann


May 22, 20100 found this helpful
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Whether or not your vows are legally &/or religiously recognized is your decision, of course. You're asking for ideas regarding the private exchanges of promises & rings, & a get-together afterwards. Here are a few thoughts from personal experience (I'm a wedding officiant).

One couple hired a small decorative arts theatre, & invited their guests to a Mardi Gras / birthday party for 7pm. Having written their own vows, they read them to each other privately, & offered their rings, all around 6pm, & afterwards exchanged a champagne toast to each other & their life together. The caterers providing the toast had been hired to cater a buffet table set up for the later party. At some point, when everyone had arrived & were enjoying the appetizers & drinks, the couple had a friend announce that the celebration was also in honor of the couple's wedding which had just occurred. Nice.

That, naturally, costs more money than many could afford. So here's another idea, a take-off on what my late husband & I chose:

We legally married on a Saturday in our home, all very laid back, in the presence of 2 witnesses. The next day we had what we considered our "real" wedding in a small Moroccan restaurant that closed for the occasion. For $20/each for about 60 guests, we all shared a 7-course meal that lasted about 3 hours. Just piped-in music as the restaurant would usually provide. At least that's the general outline of what happened.

The final thought is of the couple who rented a hillside from some sort of nature sanctuary. For $150 total cost, they had its use for the ceremony, & use of its barn afterwards for the party. Their invitation had requested that each guest "make their presence their gift", & please bring a covered dish. Again, this goes only a short way of describing their event, but perhaps it might spark some ideas of your own.

Hope it helps. If you need any ideas of writing vows &/or ring givings, you can contact me at bsvgs @ yahoo . com. Really, I'm not soliciting work, just some help.

Good luck to you!


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May 26, 20100 found this helpful
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Hey guys! Thank you all so much for your suggestions, comments and advise! It has really helped a lot. You have made me see, that you're right when it comes to us marrying. Think I'll back off this idea. Some of you made me feel pretty stupid! :( acid annie! Thank you girl!

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May 20, 20100 found this helpful

What better place to meet up with God for this discussion between the 3 of you than out in nature?! If you have a nice park in your area with a shelter that can be reserved you can have your family and friends meet there at a designated time while the two of you arrive 30 minutes earlier and take a walk to a more private area to exchange your vows.

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May 20, 20100 found this helpful

If you and your boyfriend have been together for l0 years and you still don't want to marry each other don't be a fraud and go through a ceremony for show because God won't honor that and it is a waste of both your money. If you don't trust each other now you never will and this extra money won't make it any better. Sorry, but you asked and I figure you wanted the truth. I have done it before and for whatever you think this will solve it won't. Just get married and sign prenuptials if you are so wealthy you're afraid he'll take it or both of you. I got married 20 years ago for the 6th time and have never regretted it and the benefits are that if you get sick terminally or he does they don't just take him and all your stuff away from you, but the way it is now you can't make choices for him if something happened to him that he couldn't make for himself only the court appointed person could, but as his wife you have more choices. Check out these things before something happens to either of you and you find yourself hurting.

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