My daughter was married a few weeks ago. My mother and I were unable to attend due to the long distance and health problems. I, of course, feel badly about not being able to attend my own daughter's wedding.
I would like to give her a small (immediate family) follow-up party in August. I wonder if this has ever been done before, is appropriate and finally, any ideas? Also, what do I call it?
I need to do it in my own home. All ideas needed from what to serve, to thoughts on a small gift or token? Any other ideas other than this?
Thank you for reading and any responses you might have.
By AKate from NY
It is perfectly appropriate for you to give a family gathering. I have attended another whole "wedding reception" in the grooms hometown, when the bride's hometown, where the wedding was, was so far away that most of the people on the grooms side couldn't attend.
I think you can do anything you like. You can do a sit down meal, just like Thanksgiving , or you could do something more informal like a BBQ or something fancy like an afternoon tea with fancy sandwiches. I think any sort of gathering that you care to host will be fine. Depends on how many are coming and what your family likes to do. If you have already given your gift to your daughter, I don't know that you need to give another. But again, do what you like. It is your party for your daughter, for close family and friends.
At the "second reception" that I attended, it was just like a regular one, with everyone giving regular wedding type gifts, but only those who had not attended the actual wedding, which was most of the crowd. It was quite a large affair.
You might go with a theme, like plants for her yard of her new home (if she and her new husband have one), people could bring plants from their own gardens or inexpensive garden stuff like solar lights or gazing balls and so on. Or if the gift is just a token, maybe everyone could bring a favorite family recipe? If your family is into potluck gatherings, you could do that, with everyone bringing a family fav for the potluck, and also the recipe.
You can have this gathering as formal or as informal as you please.
I don't know what to call it. I don't think that matters either!
If your daughter understands why you and your mother were not able to attend her wedding, and she's not upset with you, then by all means have an after-wedding party for her and her new husband - that would be such a nice gesture! If you invite immediate family members who attended the wedding or have already given a gift, you might want to assure them that your party is one to celebrate the new couple in a smaller, more intimate setting (Name it a "Celebration for ______"). Finger foods, small pastries, and juice/soda/coffee/wine would be easy to serve.
It's a "reception" to honor the newly married couple. A reception does not have to be held immediately following a wedding, graduation, anniversary, or any other event. I think that it is really gracious of you and am sure that your daughter and her husband will appreciate what you are doing. You can make it a weekend brunch, and early afternoon tea (cake, cookies, punch, nuts, fruit), a BBQ cookout, a home cooked buffet, a traditional affair, or anything that is in your budget.
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My husband and I were married in January and are having a wedding celebration with our families in July. We are wanting to put on a nice affair, but we are on a small budget. Our colors are red, blue, and silver. Any advice would be appreciated.
By javamom77 from Yorkton, Sk
Have the event in the evening, say 7:30-8:00 for a start time. That way, people won't expect a meal. Serve cake, ice cream, coffee, tea, and punch. Ask adult cousins to serve the lunch. The receptions that I have been to that do this have male cousins scoop the ice cream. Give the helpers a small remembrance of the occasion as a thank you.
Ask a couple teen age relatives to carry the gifts to the gift table. Ask a married couple to be host and hostess, if you know of a relative that is good at taking pictures, ask that person to take some pictures of the event. Most of the time at this type of event the evening is spent making the rounds and visiting with the guests.
Sometimes, two or three people that like to do a little acting can be drafted to put on a skit about marriage. For this, it might take a little digging to find a written skit, but it can be done. At my wedding reception, one of my husband's aunts and her teenage daughter put on a skit, that had something to do with hillbillies. The aunt was dressed in patched bib overalls, it was hilarious. A couple people did readings and that was all the entertainment there was. It was a good time.